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Don’t Confuse Sex With Love In the act of sex we share space, our bodies, desires, expressions of pleasure and lust.  Our capacity for lust – when desire burns in us and we are focused solely on the object of our desire – is molded by our experiences growing up, as is our capacity to love.  Even though many people have the ability to feel both love and lust at the same time, you can usually lust after someone without necessarily feeling love for them, and vice versa. Someone recently asked me the definition of love.  My first thought was, “You’re kidding, right?”  I thought that maybe I should try to find out just what they were looking for in my answer or else we would be there all day!  My mind started reeling with all the many different examples of variations of love.  The love for a parent or child is so different from love and appreciation of a mentor or friend.  And love for a partner can be anything from lovin...

Don’t Confuse Sex With Love In the act of sex we share space, our bodies, desires, expressions of pleasure and lust.  Our capacity for lust – when desire burns in us and we are focused solely on the object of our desire – is molded by our experiences growing up, as is our capacity to love.  Even though many people have the ability to feel both love and lust at the same time, you can usually lust after someone without necessarily feeling love for them, and vice versa. Someone recently asked me the definition of love.  My first thought was, “You’re kidding, right?”  I thought that maybe I should try to find out just what they were looking for in my answer or else we would be there all day!  My mind started reeling with all the many different examples of variations of love.  The love for a parent or child is so different from love and appreciation of a mentor or friend.  And love for a partner can be anything from lov...

Do assassinations come as a surprise in Kenya? Were the killings of Hon. Mugabe Were and Hon. David Too isolated cases of crime or a preamble to something bigger? Supposing we wake up to a  William Ruto  assassination? How safe are these politicians amidst alleged threats on their lives?   Kenya's history of deadly conspiracies between the President and the Minister in charge of the police force, is stunning-  This conspiracy has always yielded assassinations, repression, shoot-to-kill orders, and previously, detention without trial . Digging the archives of Kenya’s political history reveals an interesting pattern in the relationship between the persons holding the offices of the Presidency and the Minister under whose docket, the police force falls. A dark partnership tainted with human blood has existed between the holders of these two offices during most of our history.  It is a pact of secrecy, deadly conspiracy, strong personal bond, business partners...

Do assassinations come as a surprise in Kenya? Were the killings of Hon. Mugabe Were and Hon. David Too isolated cases of crime or a preamble to something bigger? Supposing we wake up to a  William Ruto  assassination? How safe are these politicians amidst alleged threats on their lives?   Kenya's history of deadly conspiracies between the President and the Minister in charge of the police force, is stunning-  This conspiracy has always yielded assassinations, repression, shoot-to-kill orders, and previously, detention without trial . Digging the archives of Kenya’s political history reveals an interesting pattern in the relationship between the persons holding the offices of the Presidency and the Minister under whose docket, the police force falls. A dark partnership tainted with human blood has existed between the holders of these two offices during most of our history.  It is a pact of secrecy, deadly conspiracy, strong personal bond, business part...

With the female sexual liberation becoming more prominent than ever in the past few years, it seems that the Madonna-Whore Complex has become more prevalent as well. Instead of praising the girls who can be open about their sexuality, men claim that they want a ‘good girl’ who isn’t “on some hoe shit.” I get it, I probably wouldn’t want a girlfriend who’s known for sleeping with every man she meets. But, men’s typical definitions of “bad girls” doesn’t really seem to make sense these days. After all, if you’re calling a girl a slut based on rumors you’ve heard from fuck-boys or by judging her latest Instagram selfie, you might want to, I don’t know, actually get to know her first? Besides, being a “bad girl” (or a bad bitch) is definitely not a negative thing when it comes to relationships. If guys want a 21 year old virgin who thinks semen is “icky” and thinks a facial is only a beauty procedure, then they should go for it. But here’s why bad girls make the best gi...

With the female sexual liberation becoming more prominent than ever in the past few years, it seems that the Madonna-Whore Complex has become more prevalent as well. Instead of praising the girls who can be open about their sexuality, men claim that they want a ‘good girl’ who isn’t “on some hoe shit.” I get it, I probably wouldn’t want a girlfriend who’s known for sleeping with every man she meets. But, men’s typical definitions of “bad girls” doesn’t really seem to make sense these days. After all, if you’re calling a girl a slut based on rumors you’ve heard from fuck-boys or by judging her latest Instagram selfie, you might want to, I don’t know, actually get to know her first? Besides, being a “bad girl” (or a bad bitch) is definitely not a negative thing when it comes to relationships. If guys want a 21 year old virgin who thinks semen is “icky” and thinks a facial is only a beauty procedure, then they should go for it. But here’s why bad girls make the best...

Your rich skin tone can handle seriously pigmented colors like no other! Berries, pinks, red, plum … we could go on and on ( and we will )! While you can have all the fun you want with bold lippies and bright blush, shopping for the essentials doesn’t come as easily. Hunting down the best foundation and even bronzer can be a painstaking and time-consuming task. That’s why we did all the work for you and put together a guide on how to find the right makeup for your lovely dark skin! Here’s what you need to know the next time you take a trip down the makeup aisle … Work With Your Undertones Whether your skin tone is fair, dark or anything in between, the key to finding the right makeup is dependent on your undertones. And when it comes to shopping for the right foundation, things can get a little confusing, as most brands will offer two or more colors that look almost identical. For example, Lancôme Nude Miracle comes in Suede W, Suede C and Suede N — warm, cool and neutral. W...

Your rich skin tone can handle seriously pigmented colors like no other! Berries, pinks, red, plum … we could go on and on ( and we will )! While you can have all the fun you want with bold lippies and bright blush, shopping for the essentials doesn’t come as easily. Hunting down the best foundation and even bronzer can be a painstaking and time-consuming task. That’s why we did all the work for you and put together a guide on how to find the right makeup for your lovely dark skin! Here’s what you need to know the next time you take a trip down the makeup aisle … Work With Your Undertones Whether your skin tone is fair, dark or anything in between, the key to finding the right makeup is dependent on your undertones. And when it comes to shopping for the right foundation, things can get a little confusing, as most brands will offer two or more colors that look almost identical. For example, Lancôme Nude Miracle comes in Suede W, Suede C and Suede N — warm, cool and ...

We see it all the time: Ladies love outlaws, and good girls cannot resist bad boys. In the movies, it’s okay because the bad boy is invariably transformed by love – see James Dean in Rebel Without A Cause, or Ryan Gosling in Crazy Stupid Love. In real life, it doesn’t usually work out so well. Just ask Sandra Bullock about her tattooed love boy Jesse James, or Rhianna about her macho man Chris Brown, or Katy Perry about her rule-breaking Russell Brand, or Taylor Swift about… well, just about anyone, apparently. The fact that men are equally attracted to bad girls (“crazy in the head, crazy in bed”) doesn’t make this bitter pill any easier to swallow. I know I am not alone in seeking out the one person in the room who is going to cause me the greatest heartache and parking myself next to him. But it’s modest comfort. There are good reasons why bad boys (and bad girls) are irresistible. Sexy, seductive reasons. Those reasons are big, fat whopping lies. And underneath them are some hard t...

We see it all the time: Ladies love outlaws, and good girls cannot resist bad boys. In the movies, it’s okay because the bad boy is invariably transformed by love – see James Dean in Rebel Without A Cause, or Ryan Gosling in Crazy Stupid Love. In real life, it doesn’t usually work out so well. Just ask Sandra Bullock about her tattooed love boy Jesse James, or Rhianna about her macho man Chris Brown, or Katy Perry about her rule-breaking Russell Brand, or Taylor Swift about… well, just about anyone, apparently. The fact that men are equally attracted to bad girls (“crazy in the head, crazy in bed”) doesn’t make this bitter pill any easier to swallow. I know I am not alone in seeking out the one person in the room who is going to cause me the greatest heartache and parking myself next to him. But it’s modest comfort. There are good reasons why bad boys (and bad girls) are irresistible. Sexy, seductive reasons. Those reasons are big, fat whopping lies. And underneath them are some h...