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*For sake of brevity, we classify women as representatives of feminine energy and men as representatives of masculine energy.  However, we acknowledge and honor that gender and energy are entirely independent, as a female can have a masculine core and a male can have a feminine core.  Edward comes home from a rough day at work. He rants and raves to his wife, Jill, about the issues he has with his co-workers and his boss. Jill listens, and even engages – sharing common sentiments about how frustrating that must be. Edward eventually comes out of his rut and meets Jill at her level. Jill comes home from a rough day at work. She rants and raves to Edward. Edward however, has a strong inclination to fix her issues. He cuts into her diatribe, interjecting his thoughts on how she can solve her issues. She grows increasingly upset. She yells, saying that he doesn’t “understand” her. What is happening in each situation? In the first scenario, the feminine energy is high a...

There is nothing that requires more courage than an intimate relationship. This is the space where your deepest fears and insecurities rise to the surface, making it even more difficult to give yourself completely to another. Because to be truly vulnerable with another, you have to open up. That can be absolutely terrifying! So, rather than diving right in and swimming in the deep end, most live their lives on the surface. But the truth is, where your relationship  is  stems directly from where you  are . It’s easy to be distracted and to blame our partners or external events for the state of the union. But if you want to create real, lasting change in your relationship and achieve a level of intimacy and passion and connection that you’ve always dreamed about – then you have to look within. It starts with you, and it starts by  stepping into your pain . Stepping into your pain means facing your fears head on. It means immersing yourself in them, rather than avo...

Waking up and not feeling right after a night of drinking is scary. If you’re wondering, is drunk sex rape, because you don’t remember saying yes, what do you do? I remember a fellow friend having one experience where she was so drunk, she woke up in some guy’s bed. Did she know who he was? Nope. Does she remember having sex? Very vaguely. So now that we all know this happened, would you constitute that as rape? This is a hard question to answer and something that can’t be answered objectively. So, is drunk sex rape? Does it fall into a grey category? What you need to know about drunk sex Firstly, you need to know I’m not talking about being tipsy and having sex. I’m talking about being wasted as in you can’t walk a straight line nor can you talk without slurring your speech drunk. We all know alcohol lowers our ability to make right decisions, but if you’re borderline passed out from being drunk, can you really make a decision? Not all drunk sex is rape. However, if you woke up this m...

Waking up and not feeling right after a night of drinking is scary. If you’re wondering, is drunk sex rape, because you don’t remember saying yes, what do you do? I remember a fellow friend having one experience where she was so drunk, she woke up in some guy’s bed. Did she know who he was? Nope. Does she remember having sex? Very vaguely. So now that we all know this happened, would you constitute that as rape? This is a hard question to answer and something that can’t be answered objectively. So, is drunk sex rape? Does it fall into a grey category? What you need to know about drunk sex Firstly, you need to know I’m not talking about being tipsy and having sex. I’m talking about being wasted as in you can’t walk a straight line nor can you talk without slurring your speech drunk. We all know alcohol lowers our ability to make right decisions, but if you’re borderline passed out from being drunk, can you really make a decision? Not all drunk sex is rape. However, if you w...

Maybe you’re scared of intimacy or kissing someone new, well, there’s a general word for that. No, it’s not called being a tease, it’s erotophobia. Most of us call people who are scared of intimacy or relationships either assholes, teases, or commitment-phobes. I mean, I’m not saying that those are incorrect terms, some people may not have an actual phobia but would rather taste all the ice cream flavors before getting emotionally involved with someone. Which isn’t too bad, however, it usually ends up hurting someone. Point is, if they’re not playing games with you, they may have actually have a form of erotophobia. Erotophobia is an umbrella term that involves a variety of fears related to sex and sexual intimacy. You may think that this is not a huge problem, however, it’s usually tied to more complex fears. And, if left untreated, people with erotophobia will be unable to have romantic relationships. Erotophobia 101 Whether you have it or know someone who does, you should know what ...

Maybe you’re scared of intimacy or kissing someone new, well, there’s a general word for that. No, it’s not called being a tease, it’s erotophobia. Most of us call people who are scared of intimacy or relationships either assholes, teases, or commitment-phobes. I mean, I’m not saying that those are incorrect terms, some people may not have an actual phobia but would rather taste all the ice cream flavors before getting emotionally involved with someone. Which isn’t too bad, however, it usually ends up hurting someone. Point is, if they’re not playing games with you, they may have actually have a form of erotophobia. Erotophobia is an umbrella term that involves a variety of fears related to sex and sexual intimacy. You may think that this is not a huge problem, however, it’s usually tied to more complex fears. And, if left untreated, people with erotophobia will be unable to have romantic relationships. Erotophobia 101 Whether you have it or know someone who does, you should k...

If you’ve ever experienced sexual tension between friends, you know how weird it can be. Here’s how to handle it without ruining the friendship. Sexual tension is something that’s blatantly obvious between two people. You’ll feel it right away. Not only do you notice it a lot, but other people can pick up on the vibe, too. Having sexual tension between friends can really make it difficult for two people to interact in groups. That’s why you need to know how to handle it if you’re in that situation. It isn’t always easy. Sometimes our bodies decide what they want and refuse to listen to reason. But it is possible to deal with sexual tension between friends and keep the platonic relationship alive. Why you shouldn’t always act on sexual tension You can have sexual tension with someone you shouldn’t actually be with. There are tons of reasons not to be with someone even though you have chemistry. Maybe you’re too good of friends. Maybe you both are dating someone. And maybe it would just ...