Last month Jenn wrote an awesome article on the do’s and don’t of approaching a girl at a bar.
Even though her article was fantastic, it was left a little incomplete
without a any solid examples of how to approach a girl at a bar. Enter
Sonnie. Sonnie is a girl with some solid dating experience and who is
used to being approached at
the bar. Who better to tell you a few ways that you can go about it,
and increase your odds for success. So with that, here’s quick list of 8
effective ways to approach a girl at a bar.
There are a lot of ways to approach a girl at a bar/club. At the end of the day it’s really all about how you do it. Technically, You could say anything. If you say it the right way.
Whats the right way?
Confident,
charming and fun. If your palms are sweating, the best line will fail
you every time. But if you’re having a good time, she’s going to feel
the vibe.
So if you can get past your nerves, and remember that it really doesn’t matter (If she says no, who cares?!), here are 8 effective way to approach a girl at a bar/club.
1)
When she is not speaking to anybody, go up to her and say: “Hello. I
want to tell you that you look very pretty.” You will be able to tell
from her response if she is all for it or the worst case, she will
reject you as nicely as possible (maybe her date is in the bathroom or
she’s a lesbian.) Girls do not hear this that often and it never gets
tiring to hear. Be careful if she tests you by asking “What do you find
pretty about me?” Have an answer ready! Whether it is the way she puts
herself together, or her hair, smile…find something before you pay her
this compliment.
2) Eye contact! Not in a creepy
stalker-ish way, but in the “I notice you and you are my type.” If every
time you make eye contact she is still smiling at YOU (she will make it
very clear if she’s accepting your smiling invitations) then you can
approach her, ask her name and find out how her day is going.
3) On a cocktail napkin, write a note
saying hi, your name and that you would like to get to know her. This
goes back to middle school. Girls love getting “love” notes and it
makes us feel giddy. End the note with “What do you think?” Ending a
conversation with a question lets them know that you are expecting to
hear back from them. If she doesn’t respond, keep it moving.
4) If you’re a guy that likes to have
fun. I think a pick up line that would make me smile would be if
you quoted Puff Daddy from Big Poppa and say: How bout you go “Tell your
friends, to get with my friends, and we can be friends? Is that aight?”
End with a HUGE cheesy grin and see if she’s cool enough to keep the
interaction going or a total bitch.
5) A simple wave hello. It’s very sweet,
great acknowledgment and it’s similar to #8 where its innocent and rare
today. If she gives you positive feedback well then you must then go
over to her and execute #1.
6) If you see a “damsel in distress”
that is a PERFECT opportunity to be her knight in shining armor. If she
slips, you can go over to her and offer your hand. If she doesn’t have a
seat to sit down, find her one. If she looks upset or alone, go
accompany her. Keep an eye out for a small crisis you can solve. Even if
its just that she has toilet paper on her shoe. Don’t embarrass her
more by telling her you are helping her (she might take offense and tell
you she doesn’t need your help.) She will be aware of you being a
gentleman. Just smile and introduce yourself after rescuing her.
7) Ask her if you can buy her a drink
and get to know her. I wouldn’t just offer to treat her to a cocktail
because she WILL take her free drink that you spent your money on and
run. But if you state that you are willing to invest in her if she
is willing to do the same, she will let you know if its a go or a go
away.
8) If there’s a good vibe where you are,
you can ask the bartender for a little help, but ONLY if the bartender
is a chick! I wouldn’t trust a male bartender to help you successfully.
Woman love to play matchmakers and a guy may have intentions of
embarrassing you or c*@! blocking. I’ve been bartending for over 15
years and bartenders typically love introducing people and interacting
with their customers. (They are in the service industry and will expect a
better tip even if the girl you want to pick up declines your offer.)
Ask the bartender if they mind letting the pretty girl (and describe
her) know that she has an admirer. Have them ask her if she is single
and would like to meet you. Then plant a smile on your face, even if you
are nervous, and let the bartender do their thang. If your offer gets
denied, I promise you that at least you made a great impression on the
bartender. I’m not promising the bartender will give you her own number
but the least she should do, if nothing good comes out of it, is hook
you up with a free shot/ drink. Cheers.
Wrapping it all up..
These are only a few ways to approach a
girl at a bar. I just wanted to put some ideas in your head, but
remember! You can say anything (well close to anything) and if you are
confident, charming and having fun, she will react positively.
So try not to be nervous, go have some fun, and remember – what do you have to lose.
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