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If you’ve ever experienced sexual tension between friends, you know how weird it can be. Here’s how to handle it without ruining the friendship. Sexual tension is something that’s blatantly obvious between two people. You’ll feel it right away. Not only do you notice it a lot, but other people can pick up on the vibe, too. Having sexual tension between friends can really make it difficult for two people to interact in groups. That’s why you need to know how to handle it if you’re in that situation. It isn’t always easy. Sometimes our bodies decide what they want and refuse to listen to reason. But it is possible to deal with sexual tension between friends and keep the platonic relationship alive. Why you shouldn’t always act on sexual tension You can have sexual tension with someone you shouldn’t actually be with. There are tons of reasons not to be with someone even though you have chemistry. Maybe you’re too good of friends. Maybe you both are dating someone. And maybe it would just ...

If you’ve ever experienced sexual tension between friends, you know how weird it can be. Here’s how to handle it without ruining the friendship. Sexual tension is something that’s blatantly obvious between two people. You’ll feel it right away. Not only do you notice it a lot, but other people can pick up on the vibe, too. Having sexual tension between friends can really make it difficult for two people to interact in groups. That’s why you need to know how to handle it if you’re in that situation. It isn’t always easy. Sometimes our bodies decide what they want and refuse to listen to reason. But it is possible to deal with sexual tension between friends and keep the platonic relationship alive. Why you shouldn’t always act on sexual tension You can have sexual tension with someone you shouldn’t actually be with. There are tons of reasons not to be with someone even though you have chemistry. Maybe you’re too good of friends. Maybe you both are dating someone. And maybe it ...

HOW TO KEEP LOVING FROM THE HEART, NOT THE HEAD Love: It’s one of the few things in life that can create  intense pleasure  — or intense pain. It has the power to put you on top of the clouds or in a deep, dark hole. (And no matter how much experience we gain, it seems like we’re all still trying to figure it out.) When you are in the midst of deep love, when the world is filled with rainbows and butterflies, everything your partner does is right. This is where the term “Love is blind” comes from — you are “blinded” by love and cannot see any of your lover’s flaws.  Image credit © Guas /shutterstock In this heightened state of attraction, we tend to give our partners more leeway. There’s more space for them to make mistakes because the rules we have created within the relationships are different, and we have fewer of them. And in many cases, you don’t have any rules — you’re just thrilled to be in the same room with them, to have the opportunity to make them happy. Here’s a t...

HOW TO KEEP LOVING FROM THE HEART, NOT THE HEAD Love: It’s one of the few things in life that can create  intense pleasure  — or intense pain. It has the power to put you on top of the clouds or in a deep, dark hole. (And no matter how much experience we gain, it seems like we’re all still trying to figure it out.) When you are in the midst of deep love, when the world is filled with rainbows and butterflies, everything your partner does is right. This is where the term “Love is blind” comes from — you are “blinded” by love and cannot see any of your lover’s flaws.  Image credit © Guas /shutterstock In this heightened state of attraction, we tend to give our partners more leeway. There’s more space for them to make mistakes because the rules we have created within the relationships are different, and we have fewer of them. And in many cases, you don’t have any rules — you’re just thrilled to be in the same room with them, to have the opportunity to make them happy. ...

I attended a conference this week for writers in higher education. During one of the sessions, I sat next to a woman who intrigued me because she was wearing a device on her left wrist that looked foreign to me. In my tech job at work, I thought I’d seen everything. Devices are getting so much smaller these days and they do so much that it’s like walking around with an entire computer in your pocket. But this thing she had strapped to her wrist was something that really baffled me. This device looked like jewelry, but wasn’t quite a bracelet. It had symbols on it, but didn’t light up. I wondered if it was taking her pulse or counting her steps or something. Curiosity got the better of me, so I just blurted out “What’s that thing on your wrist?” “It’s a wristwatch.” “A wristwatch? What’s that?” “A wristwatch is something you wear on your wrist to tell time.” “Tell time? You mean, it speaks to you? Like Siri?” “No, you just look at it.” “ Look at it ? But I see it’s no...

I attended a conference this week for writers in higher education. During one of the sessions, I sat next to a woman who intrigued me because she was wearing a device on her left wrist that looked foreign to me. In my tech job at work, I thought I’d seen everything. Devices are getting so much smaller these days and they do so much that it’s like walking around with an entire computer in your pocket. But this thing she had strapped to her wrist was something that really baffled me. This device looked like jewelry, but wasn’t quite a bracelet. It had symbols on it, but didn’t light up. I wondered if it was taking her pulse or counting her steps or something. Curiosity got the better of me, so I just blurted out “What’s that thing on your wrist?” “It’s a wristwatch.” “A wristwatch? What’s that?” “A wristwatch is something you wear on your wrist to tell time.” “Tell time? You mean, it speaks to you? Like Siri?” “No, you just look at it.” “ Look at it ? But I se...

T hink about this for a moment: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you? There’s a grey area in dating many people get hung up on — a grey area where feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other. This grey area causes real, tangible issues. As a man, a huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing a woman even when she seems lukewarm or hot/cold on your advances. For women, a common question is what to do with men who make their feelings ambiguous. “She said she’s not interested, but she still flirts with me, so what do I need to do to get her?” “Well, I know she likes me, but she didn’t call me back last weekend, what should I do?” “He treats me well when he’s around, but he’s hardly around. What does that mean?” Most dating advice exists to “solve” this grey area for people. Say this line. Text her this. Call him this many times. Wear that. Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to the point ...

T hink about this for a moment: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you? There’s a grey area in dating many people get hung up on — a grey area where feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other. This grey area causes real, tangible issues. As a man, a huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing a woman even when she seems lukewarm or hot/cold on your advances. For women, a common question is what to do with men who make their feelings ambiguous. “She said she’s not interested, but she still flirts with me, so what do I need to do to get her?” “Well, I know she likes me, but she didn’t call me back last weekend, what should I do?” “He treats me well when he’s around, but he’s hardly around. What does that mean?” Most dating advice exists to “solve” this grey area for people. Say this line. Text her this. Call him this many times. Wear that. Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to t...