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Nice Guys don’t exist. | Ladies, If your standards are high, change them.


There is no such thing as a ‘nice guy’. There are (1) men who share their flaws upfront & (2) males who hide flaws by acting ‘too nice’. A ‘bad boy’ & a ‘nice guy’ are the exact same manipulative man, playing a cliche role to get girls in bed. Behaving one way in public & another way in private.

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"The Nice Guy That Exist are the Angels so to speak"
Genuine men have balance. He’s nice, yet blunt. Strong, yet calm. Take charge, yet non-controlling. Hood, yet law abiding. Protective, yet not possessive. Romantically aggressive.  A man with no ‘edge’ is hiding a cliffhanger. Here’s how you avoid the plot twist
If he’s boring, with no confidence & no assertiveness, he isn’t a ‘nice guy’ just because he texts you everyday. He’s a clingy, narcissistic male. This is why it’s never ok to call a woman ‘female’ or a man ‘male’. ‘Male’ & ‘female’ refers to the physical body only. ‘Man’ & ‘woman’ refers to the spirit we are, which controls the body it’s wrapped in. 
Any person who only views their self worth by their physical body parts, is a self-proclaimed female or male.
Pay attention to the red flags. If a man never disagrees, never has an opposing opinion, or never calls out your flaws; he’s not nice, he’s playing a beta role. Don’t wait blindly for the plot twist. Yell cut, end scene. Fin.
Men don’t switch up out of no where. Women must learn to be more loyal to warning signs she sees from the beginning, than she is to an inconsistent man’s potential he never lives up to.
A woman who respectfully questions things is sexy af to a man with nothing to hide. Call him out on his red flags & inconsistencies, to see if his love is stronger than his pride. How a man behaves under pressure is who he really is.
If that nice guy gets angry when you point out his inconsistency, it proves he’s a rageful narcissist playing a role. If that bad boy says he’s ok, yet passive aggressively throws tantrums after you catch him in a lie, it shows he’s a scorned coward, using a non-chalant ‘bad boy’ image to camouflage his bitterness.
If you’re a single woman & your standards are high, change them…by raising them even higher. That way, only a tall man with a high consistency level can reach your standards.
A loyal woman is not crazy. Over emotional. Smart mouthed or rude. She is a work of art, sculpted by the greatest artist in the universe. Art does not need to rhyme, make sense all the time, nor change its appearance to be accepted. Art is to be observed, studied, valued & appreciated for the uniqueness it is.
Dear future wife, I want to study your pages. Become fluent in your language the most. I taste the good & bad in you, & I want them both. You bring out the best flavor in me, flaws & all. I just want to savor you. You’re already whole, you don’t need a man to rescue you. 
 I just want you to love & fully accept the beautiful soul in your mirror, as much as I love her. May you, me & her love each other so deep, stay growing closer and better, together, for infinity forevers.
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